If you’ve ever wondered what it feels like to shoot a stream of water out of your vagina during orgasm, wonder no longer. Here are four ways you can learn to do it yourself.
1. Start slow. Don’t try to force it. Instead, focus on relaxing and enjoying the sensations.
2. Keep your pelvic muscles tight. This helps keep things contained inside.
3. Use your G Spot. By massaging this area, you’ll help stimulate the nerve endings there.
4. Try Kegels. These exercises strengthen your PC muscle, helping you control your orgasms.
5. Practice with toys. You can use a vibrator or dildo for clitoral stimulation, or even insert a finger into your vagina.
6. Experiment with different positions. Try lying down, sitting up, standing, kneeling, and so forth.
7. Take care of your body. Eat well, get plenty of sleep, exercise, and take good care of yourself.
1. Get your bed ready…just in case.
If you’ve ever had sex in a hotel room, you know how it goes down: You’re pretty sure you’ll be able to make it work, but once you start having fun, you realize there are no clean linens anywhere nearby. What happens next is usually one of three scenarios:
You end up getting wetter than you expected.
You get really messy, and you don’t want to deal with cleaning up afterward.
Or you just keep going, because you’re too busy having fun to care. But what if there was a way to avoid either of those outcomes?
That’s where the Liberator Fascinator throw comes in. This soft, absorbent towel is designed to soak up fluids during sex without making a mess. And since it’s made out of microfiber, it won’t stick to your skin like regular towels might.
The best part? It’s totally reusable, so you can use it again and again.
2. Make sure you’re well hydrated.
The science behind why drinking water helps with orgasms isn’t exactly clear — there are some theories about how dehydration affects our bodies, but there aren’t many studies into the topic. But one thing we do know is that being dehydrated can cause problems during sex. Dehydration can lead to less lubrication, which makes sex feel dry and uncomfortable. And it can also affect blood flow, making sex painful. So, it might actually be worth getting up to go pee just to ensure you’re properly hydrated.
3. Give yourself plenty of time to get turned on.
The best way to start having better orgasms is to give yourself time to get into the mood. “For most people, sex begins in the mind,” says Sparks. “So start the mental seduction earlier.” This includes dirty talk, cleanliness, and anything else that makes you feel sexy.
If you’re nervous about being able to orgasm during intercourse, don’t worry—it happens to everyone. “Most women are capable of multiple orgasms during intercourse,” says Hall. “They just might not realize it because they’ve never had one before.” If you haven’t experienced one, don’t stress. “It can take time to learn how to control your muscles and relax enough to let go,” she adds.
4. Start by focusing on the clit.
The best way to stimulate the clitoris, according to sex experts, is to focus on the clitoris itself. You don’t want to stimulate the entire vagina; just the clitoris. If you’re looking to orgasm during intercourse, start by stimulating the clitoris first, and then move down to the vagina. This will give you better orgasms because the clitoris is where most women experience arousal and climax.
If you are having trouble getting aroused, try masturbating first. Then, once you’ve gotten yourself turned on, you can go ahead and do what you’d like to do sexually.
5. Then, place a lot of pressure on the G-spot.
The key to squirting is to keep things loose. If you tighten up the pelvic floor muscles while stimulating the G-spot, you could end up peeing yourself. So don’t tense up. Instead, focus on relaxing those muscles. And remember, you want to change the angle of the uretha — the tube that carries urine out of the body — to the bladder. This helps make it easier for fluids to escape.
6. Get some help from a toy.
When it comes to purchasing sex toys, there are plenty of options out there. But figuring out what works best for you can feel overwhelming. So we asked experts for advice on how to make sure you’re getting the most bang for your buck. Here’s what they had to say.
1. Know Your Body Type
First things first: Before you start shopping, figure out what type of body you have. This way, you’ll know exactly where to go and what to buy. If you’re a beginner, you might want to start off with a vibrator that’s easy to handle. For those looking for something bigger, try a dildo. And if you’ve been playing around with toys for awhile, you might want to consider trying anal beads. They’re great because they don’t require much skill to insert, making them perfect for beginners.
2. Shop Around
You probably already know that prices vary widely across different stores. To save money, shop around online. Sites like Amazon and Babeland offer free shipping and discounts on certain products. Also, check out local sex shops. Many carry similar items to online retailers, but often for less. Plus, you can always ask a store clerk for recommendations.
3. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask Questions
If you’re unsure about whether a product is safe for you or your partner, don’t hesitate to ask questions. Sex toy companies are required to list the materials used in their products. Some manufacturers include information about lubricants, while others do not. If you’re worried about a material, just ask. Most companies are happy to answer your questions.
7. Don’t stress about peeing.
A lot of women feel like their bladder goes into overdrive when they’re nearing orgasm. They start to worry that they might pee themselves. But that must-pee feeling is often triggered by the Skene’s gland releasing fluid, explains Hall.
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And even if pee does come…
Who cares? Sex is messy and there’s lots of fluids involved already, says Vanessa Marin, creator of Finishing School. Even if it was urine, nobody cares.
8. Control your pelvic floor muscles
The pelvic floor is responsible for holding up our organs. If we don’t keep it strong, we could end up leaking urine, stool, or blood. And there’s no better way to strengthen those muscles than to squeeze them while having sex.
“If you’re sitting down, put one hand on your genitals and the other on your thigh. Squeeze both together,” Sparks recommends. “Then, take your thumb and press against the perineum area just above the opening of the vagina. This is where the urethra opens into the bladder. Pressing here will help you relax your pelvic floor muscles.”
You’ll want to repeat this exercise every day, preferably during your period.
9. Try to relax in the moment.
If you’re trying to achieve a G-spot orgasm, you might want to try relaxing in the moment. “You don’t necessarily have to do anything special,” says sex educator and author Rachel Venning. “Just focus on being relaxed and enjoying yourself.”
O’Reilly recommends doing something that makes you feel good physically, mentally, and emotionally. “Do whatever feels good,” she says. “The key is to let go of expectations and just enjoy what you are feeling.”
10. Don’t be too hard on yourself if it doesn’t pan out.
Dr. Marisa Castellano, founder of the Squirting University, tells Bustle she often gets asked why women are having trouble getting pregnant or getting pregnant easily. She explains that there are many factors involved, including hormones, stress levels, and overall health. But one thing that she stresses over and over again is that it’s okay if you’re not able to get pregnant the first time around.
Castellano says that most people think about pregnancy like a race, where you try to win and get pregnant quickly. However, she advises against thinking about it that way because it sets unrealistic expectations. Instead, she suggests focusing on enjoying the process and taking things slow.
“If you want to get pregnant, you’ll get pregnant,” she says. “But if you want to enjoy the process, take things slowly, and allow yourself to feel good about what you’re doing, you’ll find that you won’t mind waiting a little longer.”
The four golden rules for squirting
The most important thing about sleeping well is getting into bed without too much stress. If you are feeling tense, it’s best to take some deep breaths and try to relax. You don’t want to lie there worrying about how you’ll sleep — just go ahead and do it.
Once you’ve got everything ready, it’s time to start relaxing. Start by taking a few slow, deep breaths and focus on your breathing. This helps calm your nervous system and prepares you for restful slumber. Next, close your eyes and think about what makes you happy. Think about things like your family, friends, pets, hobbies, etc., and let those thoughts flow freely through your head. Don’t worry about being analytical; just enjoy thinking about whatever brings you joy.
Finally, turn off your phone and tablet. Turn out the lights, too. These devices emit blue light that disrupts our natural circadian rhythm. So, even though you might feel tempted to check social media, email, texts, etc., resist the urge. Just put away your gadgets and allow yourself to drift off to sleep.
2. Locate your G-spot!
The G-spot is one of those things that everyone knows about, but few people actually know how to find. In fact, there are many different theories on where exactly it is located. Some say it’s inside the vagina; others claim it’s outside the vagina, near the cervix. But no matter what theory you subscribe to, we think you’ll agree that locating the spot isn’t easy.
So, here’s our guide to finding your G-spot — and hopefully, some good luck too.
3. Stimulate your G-spot
The G-Spot is located just inside the vagina, near the cervix. It’s often described as being like a button, although some women say it feels more like a lump. If you’re having trouble locating it, try pressing firmly against your perineum, the area between your vaginal opening and anus. You’ll know you’ve found it when you feel a tingling sensation.
To help you find it, start out gently massaging yourself down there. Use your fingers, a vibrator or sex toy, or even a tongue. Start slow and build up speed over time. Try different positions, such as lying faceup, sitting upright, kneeling or standing. And don’t forget about foreplay! A little kissing, caressing, licking, sucking and nibbling can really bring her pleasure.
4. Listen to your body
The most common way to tell whether you’re about to orgasm is by listening to your body. If you feel yourself getting close, try to slow down your breathing. You might want to stop touching yourself altogether, because you don’t want to stimulate your clitoris too much. And remember that it doesn’t always happen during sex — sometimes it happens while masturbating alone.
How to squirt during sex
Squirting is one of those things you either love or hate. If it happens too often, it can lead to painful bladder infections. But if you’re lucky enough to enjoy it, there are some ways to make sure you don’t miss out on the fun. Here’s what you need to know about how to squirt during sex.
Sex positions for squirting
If you’re with a man, penis having partner, or using a dildo, try out the cow girl or doggy style sex positions. In case you’re having sex with a man or a penis-having partner, try out the cow-girl or doggy style positions.
In case you’re using a dildo, use the cow-girl or doggy style positions.
The cow-girl position gives you full control over both body and feelings, making it easier for yourself to feel your way to the G spot.
Doggy style positions give your partner the opportunity to apply pressure on the front vaginal lining, increasing the chances of G-spot stimulation. Also, remember that squirting might happen on your first attempt, or it could take some time… The most important thing is to be comfortable with your body and forget about any expectations!